Two days after arriving home from Texas, my mother came in for a visit. I was excited to see her and hopeful that we would have a good visit, but a little fearful that we may have some disagreements. Since my dad died, we have had a bit of a tense relationship. I have disapproved of many of her choices and have tried to be supportive, but it has been difficult at times. I think she knew she was making some bad choices too, and would become defensive if approached about any of them.
Thankfully, our visit has been conflict free and we have had a wonderful time Christmas shopping and wrapping, baking, playing with the kids and doing other fun things. We have had a couple discussions about things going on in her life and it sounds as if she had finally emerged from the fog that was clouding her judgement. She is ready to make some positive changes in her life and is no longer defensive about the past. She actually admits that she acted inappropriately! Whatever revelation she has had, I am grateful for it. I feel as if I have my "mum" back!
She flies home today and I am really looking forward to our next visit and a renewed relationship in between.
Healing is a wonderful thing that when given the chance it needs through time and patience is worth the wait and effort. I feel like my dad is finally smiling down on all of us.
